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Nov 16

How to dump someone

By KerryNo Comments

We have all been dumped at some point and it feels like the end of the world. Here at Matchmeup we have brought to you the top 10 ways that people get dumped and some of them are not very nice……anyway if this ever happens to you then Matchmeup can help you find new love with just a few clicks.

Face to face
Firstly, I should make clear that in a serious relationship, I would always conduct this nasty business in person. And maybe in a casual relationship too, if forced…

Pros: Instant right to reply for the dumpee.
Cons: You are vulnerable to the threat of tears and possible violence.

Ignoring
This very common tactic involves blanking your lover until they work out that it’s over. At first, they will send lots of texts and mails. Eventually, they will give up.

Pros: You never have to officially dump them.
Cons: They will never know for sure why you stopped contacting them; they may even think you are dead.

Text/email
The fastest, simplest and by far most popular method of ending a casual fling is to fire off a carefully-worded message. Almost everyone has received – or dished out – some form of electronic dumping. But killjoys deem it impolite.

Pros: Fits in perfectly with a fast-paced modern lifestyle.
Cons: The victim could receive the message at an unfortunate moment, such as during an important business meeting or while they’re having a really good time at Alton Towers.

Letter
I suppose this was considered the text dumping of its day. But now it seems slightly more classy and respectful. At least you’re paying for a stamp.

Pros: Old-fashioned and somehow romantic. Your jilted lover can keep itforever as a memento of how much of a berk you are.
Cons: You have to pay for a stamp.

Facebook
The ’relationship status’ option on Facebook is the best way of keeping up-to-date with your friends’ love lives… so why not your own too? Just change your status and your newly-dumped ex will receive the news straight to their Wall.

Pros: For you, it’s painless. Just the simple click of a button.
Cons: Your ex will be furious and may retaliate by announcing to Facebook that you have a small willy.

Note
This is similar to the letter but less comprehensive. It could be piece of paper through the letterbox or a Post-it note stuck to their box of Alpen. The key is the brevity.

Pros: Everyone likes receiving little notes, it’s fun.
Cons: You’d have to pick a strategic time to leave the note, otherwise you could get caught and end up in a face-to-face situation.

Via someone else
This only generally happens when you are under the age of 15. It happened to me once in my school lunch break while I was queuing up in Dixy Fried Chicken and it was brutal.

Pros: If they cry, you don’t have to see it.
Cons: Not acceptable behaviour if you are an adult.

In public
At a Birmingham City football match last weekend, a fan proposed to his girlfriend on the pitch. So why not do the opposite and announce to the world your decision to end it? Maybe the announcer could do it when they read out the birthdays. Or you could request a shout-out on your lover’s favourite radio station.

Pros: This could be her 15 seconds of fame.
Cons: Live broadcasting is unpredictable and they may omit your dedication.

Don’t tell them
Tell your friends and family you’ve split up, chat people up in bars, go online dating, stop having sex – essentially, become single. Just don’t tell your partner about it.

Pros: Awkward dumping conversation avoided.
Cons: There’s a high chance they will eventually find out you have stopped going out with them and then bad things will happen.

Phone call
As for me, I opted against all these methods and called her. I semi-rehearsed what I was going to say; my main aim was to avoid clichés such as “it’s not you, it’s me” and not to panic and tell her I was gay. I bumbled through it awkwardly, using the phrase “I really like you but…” more than once (it was true though). And although she went a bit quiet, the conversation ended on fairly amicable terms. I didn’t feel great, but I felt like slightly less of an arsehole than if I’d used the methods above.

Pros: Makes you feel like an adult.
Cons: Scary.

Oct 18

Top 10 Male Habits that are keeping you single

By KerryNo Comments

Being single is great – but only if you want to be. It’s not so much fun when you’re fed up with dinner for one and can’t understand why no-one wants to go out with you. What’s keeping you unattached while everyone else gets loved up? Here are 10 habits that could be to blame.

1. Lechery

It’s fine to think about sex a lot. It’s just about workable to think about sex all the time. But it’s neither fine nor workable to talk about sex all the time. The more that you let those naughty thoughts form themselves into words, the less luck you’re going to have with women.

Just to complicate things, you don’t even have to think or talk about sex to come across as lecherous. You just need to flirt too much. The least attractive men at a party are the ones who flirt with every woman there, in the hope of getting off with one of them. To make a woman fall for you, make her feel like the only woman in the room.

However, do it carefully: paying the wrong kind of compliment can make you sound like a proper sleazebag. “The wrong kind of compliment means” anything unimaginative that’s purely to do with her appearance. If you walk up to a woman you’ve never met before and tell her she’s the most gorgeous creature in the room, you sound like a lech. Tell her she’s got lovely elbows, and you’ve scored. I know, life is weird and unfair.

By the way, your fart jokes are the opposite of sexy. Just so you know.

2. Signal blindness

If a woman is giving you the right signals, she assumes that you’re reading loud and clear. If you dither, you’ve lost her. When a woman you’ve never met before asks if you’d like a drink, she is actually saying: “I’m looking for a man-sized hot water bottle, and I wondered if you’d volunteer?” Do NOT lose your opportunity.

Brush up your body language fluency, too. If she meets your eye for a heartbeat longer than necessary, she’s telling you that she’s interested – and if you don’t send back a corresponding signal, she’ll assume that you don’t want to know. So get out there and meet a woman’s eye for a second or two. If you look away, look back and catch her looking again, you’re in.

3. Shallowness

Are you the kind of man who notices when a woman has gained five pounds over Christmas, and is put off by a solitary jawbone zit? Get over yourself. No wonder you haven’t got a girlfriend, you shallow toad.

4. Commitment-phobia

You are a cliché made flesh, and you are a man made of a thousand bad excuses. So you don’t want to get into a relationship because you’re scared of getting hurt. You don’t want to get married because your parents had a nasty divorce. You don’t want to move in together because the magic will be gone.

Look, we all have those fears – women as well as men. But you can’t cling onto them and then go round moaning that you’re still single. If you want a relationship, be a man and eat your fears.

5. Desperation

Giving a woman your attention will pay dividends, but don’t invade her personal space. If a woman you’re talking to turns to talk to her friend, or goes off to the loo or the bar without saying “I’ll be back,” she’s trying to shake you off. Do not, for the love of God, wait for her outside the loo.

Ringing her on the way home from your first date is a way of invading her personal space with your voice alone. Creepy.

6. Slobbiness

Clothes maketh the man. What you’re wearing reveals a lot about you to the women in the room, such as whether you can operate a washing machine.

Being able to read a clock is another handy skill. It’s fine to run five minutes late for a date, as long as you text to let her know. It’s almost more polite than being on time, because it gives her a chance to catch her breath. However, turning up 10 or more minutes late without explanation makes you look rude before you’ve even uttered a word. You’re strangling all your relationships at birth.

7. Bragging

No woman will be impressed if you brag about your job, your travels or whatever. The way to impress a woman is to let her brag about herself, and to be fascinated.

8. Pack hunting

Men who go sharking with their mates are men who come home again with their mates, only drunker. If you want to come home with a woman, you need to hunt alone.

On a similar note, when you’re dating a woman, don’t take her on a date to the place where you’re likely to be accosted by friends who are shouting and smelling of beer.

9. Mobile phone addiction

Answering your mobile is one of the rudest things you can do on a first date. Your companion will sit there feeling less and less important with every word you bark into your phone. Switch the thing off when you arrive.

10. Kisslexia

You may be achingly gorgeous and possessed of brilliant conversational wit, but if you’re a bad kisser you won’t be attractive to women. Slobbering over her face, licking her chin, sucking her lips, deep-throating with your tongue… women hate being kissed this way, and most men over the age of 13 know this. Now if you’ll excuse us, we need to go and think about something less icky.

Oct 10

Top 10 Female habits that keep you single.

By KerryNo Comments
Women, 10 habits that are keeping you single

Being single is great – but only if you want to be. It’s not so much fun when you’re fed up with dinner for one and can’t understand why no-one wants to go out with you. What’s keeping you unattached while everyone else gets loved up? Here are 10 habits that could be to blame.

1. First-move phobia

Being born male does not gift men with unassailable self-confidence. Men know that they’re supposed to do the running, and they hate it. If you want a date, go and chat him up. He’ll be too delighted to say anything other than “wow, yes!”

By the way, making eye contact with a guy is not the same as “making a move.” Eye contact, no matter how flirtatious you think it is, won’t get you very far unless you accompany it with “hello.”

2. Playing hard to get

If you want a man to be interested in you, be interested in him. It works, because all human beings are egomaniacs at heart. Treating ‘em mean only makes ‘em go and find someone else.

You know when someone’s trying to ask you out, so don’t come over all coy in the misguided belief that it’ll make you more alluring. If a handsome stranger asks, “are you all right for a drink?”, he is interested. Don’t just nod, blush, and run away expecting him to follow you. If you find him attractive, accept his offer and strike up a conversation.

When you’ve been on a date, don’t be scared to pick up the phone. Whoever told you to wait for three days (or whatever random number of days) before returning a phone call is an idiot. No man wants a stalker, but letting him know you’re interested is the way to win his heart.

3. Romantic perfectionism

If you wait around for love at first sight, you may be waiting for a very long time. Lust at first sight happens all the time, but it ain’t love until you’ve shared a bathroom. Don’t wait around for that thunderbolt of first-glance love, because you’ll be waiting – and single – for a very long time indeed.

If you have a very narrow idea of your “ideal man”, you may never find someone who lives up to your fantasy. Here’s a revolutionary idea: try a man who’s completely different from your ideal. You may end up surprised – and a lot less single.

4. Appearance insecurity

Don’t ruin your social life by cancelling plans every time you get a zit that no man will ever notice because he’s too busy looking at your breasts or (if he was brought up very well, your eyes). Avoid wearing too much make-up, too. The natural look is much more appealing to men than a trowelling of slap. Too much facepaint makes you look desperate, and that’s never a good look when you’re trying to impress.

Similarly, don’t let your waistline fixation spoil a romantic meal. A tasty dessert shared with your date could seal the deal on your evening, and it’s unlikely to make a difference to your weight unless you have a date every night this week.

5. Bad man-choices

Fear of being single often drives you to accept dates – and more dates – with men you don’t really fancy. Trouble is, while you’re wasting precious time with Mr OK-I-Suppose, you could be out finding Mr Right.

Or do you head straight past Mr OK-I-Suppose and hand your precious breakable heart to Mr Toxic? He comes in many guises: the serial online dating addict who never takes his profile down; the self-esteem leech who can’t stop criticising; the rebounder who uses you as a cushion after his break-up… they grab women’s hearts, take them on a romantic rollercoaster ride for a few weeks, then smash those hearts to pieces. One minute you’re dizzy with lust, the next you’re devastated. And very, very single.

6. Low tiff tolerance

Do you run away from a relationship as soon as the going gets slightly shouty? While we’d never advocate hanging onto an unhappy relationship, do remember that no relationship can be perfectly happy all the time. Boyfriends are not perfect, relationships are not perfect, and the road to happiness is strewn with ups and downs.

7. Ex-talk

No really, do not mention your ex on a date. Perhaps you were with him for years and he plays a walk-on part in all your anecdotes, but you must break the ex-namecheck habit if you’re to impress a potential lover. Even a passing mention of your previous man suggests that you haven’t moved on.

8. Sofa-hugging

The guy you’re hoping to meet doesn’t live under your sideboard, so if you want a relationship you’re going to have to get out and start meeting people. Maybe you’re constantly tired or ridiculously busy at work, but if you want a relationship, you need to make time for a social life.

9. Desperation

Men can smell your desperation from half a mile away. If you feel the need to ring him up on your way home from your first date, it had better be to answer his missed call.

10. Relationship resistance

Are you happy, fulfilled and busy with your work, home and friends? Do you find that the occasional fling satisfies your need for lust and male attention? Congratulations, you have a great life – now stop reading articles about why you’re still single! Not everyone is cut out to be one half of a couple, and a relationship is not a compulsory element of a happy life. If you keep dipping a toe into dating but never quite feel comfortable with it, perhaps you’re better off single after all.

Jul 27

John James ‘leaves’ Big Brother House.

By KerryNo Comments

As my husband rolls his eyes and settles himself in front of his computer to escape my nightly viewing of Big Brother 11 I eagerly await the latest news on the Josie/John James saga.

It’s been a dramatic few days in the Josie – John James saga, so we thought we’d do you a favour and give you the low down on the recent events of the past 2 days.

Are you sitting comfortably? Then we’ll begin…

Yesterday afternoon, John James and Josie took their microphones off and began whispering under a duvet in the Bedroom (again). At one point our Aussie boy could be heard telling Josie that he wouldn’t hurt her, but later he said their relationship was becoming like Shabby and Caoimhe.

Josie took offence to this comment replying that she was not the Shabby in the relationship.  As she stormed out of the Bedroom, John James begged her to talk to him. He followed her to the Bathroom and said he never meant to hurt her, and Josie said he hadn’t hurt her, so why is he carrying on? He slammed his fist on the sink and walked out.

John James went to the Bedroom and explained the situation to his new best friend JJ.  The boxer said that John James just wanted to find out how Josie feels and that he was there if he wanted to talk about the situation.  JJ said he would try to talk to Josie later in the afternoon.

John James then walked into the Garden and straight through to the camera runs through a fire escape telling housemates that he was sorry. He spent a few minutes in the camera runs speaking to the BB producers, never properly leaving the house, before returning and going to speak to Big Brother in the Diary Room.

Following this chat, John James had a heart to heart with Josie saying that he didn’t want her to resent him for not liking her as much as she likes him. He continued by saying that his reasons for leaving were not because of her feelings for him but because he couldn’t handle not speaking to her, saying ‘In the outside world I could talk to you properly’.

He apologised to Josie for everything when she said she felt stupid and looks like an idiot. John James said he has been selfish.  Josie says she knows what he’s going to say next, so there’s no need to say it.  Once again, our Aussie softy began to cry under the covers.

But the plot thickens! At 16.35 yesterday afternoon, they kissed!!
The canoodling continued during the night. What will become of these two? Will they ever become the romance of BB11?

How do you think this will pan out? Are you fed up and wish they’d just get it on? Do you even care?

Source of information: Channel4.com/BigBrother

May 31

Dating A Single Parent.

By Kerry1 Comment

Single parent dating tips have to address issues that people without children don’t ever have to worry about. Let’s face it – being a single parent is pretty difficult at times to begin with. Throw trying to establish a special adult relationship into the mix and you’ve got lots of complications. I’ve put together some single parent dating tips that can help simplify things so that you can relax and enjoy dating again.

Explaining it to Your Kids.
When you are going out on a date, let your kids know that you’re going out with a friend. It’s a simple, honest explanation. Especially with younger kids, no more details are needed; if they ask who the friend is, simply say that it is someone from work, a friend of your neighbour, or whoever it is. Don’t try to explain too much – simpler is better.

Avoiding Resentment.
Don’t introduce your children to someone you’re dating until you’re pretty sure the relationship is going somewhere. Meeting several different people over time will only confuse them, and they may come to resent your dating anyone at all.

Introduce Your New Friend Slowly.
Once you’re ready to introduce your significant other to your children, do so slowly. The first time, it should be simply ice cream or perhaps some time in the park. Gradually allow more time with the kids and include them on some appropriate “family dates.”

Your Children Come First.
Here is a very important single parent dating tip: make it clear from the beginning that your children will come first in any situation. If this seems to be a problem for anyone you’re seeing, it’s time to stop the relationship. Any man or woman who is jealous of your children isn’t a good bet for a relationship.

Your Commitments Come First.
If you’re a single parent who only sees his children every other weekend or a similar schedule, make this clear. Tell someone you are dating that you won’t be available on those weekends, and stick to it until you’re ready to have everyone get together. This reassures your children and gives the person you’re dating an idea of the commitment involved in dating someone with children.

Don’t Move Too Quickly.
If you allow your kids to get close to someone early on, only to break up with them a few months later, they will end up hurt and confused. This is especially essential if you’re just starting to date again or if you’ve recently divorced.

Listen to Your Kids.
Once your children have met someone you’re dating, listen to their input. (A dating tip I got from a lot of single parents). This doesn’t mean axing your social life if your son or daughter says, “I don’t want you to date anymore,” without a good explanation. However, if he or she says they really don’t like him because he yells at them, doesn’t pay attention to them or just makes them uncomfortable, listen. Discuss the concerns with your companion, watch how he or she interacts with your children and put some real thought into the situation.

Don’t Parade Your Date in Front of an Ex.
It may be tempting to let your ex know that you’ve moved on, but it’s unfair to use a date as a weapon. Your children will no doubt mention that you’re dating when they are with their other parent, and that’s fine. Don’t ask them to keep it a secret or they will feel like you are doing something wrong. Simply let things take their course, and answer their questions honestly.

Reassure Your Children.
Reassure your children that dating someone is completely separate from your love for them. Explain the importance of having a special adult in your life, but that it doesn’t diminish your feelings for them.

These single parent dating tips won’t guarantee completely smooth sailing, but it will make the process less confusing for everyone concerned.

May 21

How To Spot A Gold Digger!

By Kerry1 Comment

1. Understand what a gold digger is, and is not.

There’s nothing wrong with a person being concerned about your financial stability. A long-term partnership means depending on each other through the ups and downs, and being financially reliable does help with that to a degree. The difference between a gold digger and someone who values your role as a provider is that the gold digger would deride and perhaps leave you if you lost your ability to provide for them financially. A good person can appreciate your financial resources, but a gold digger appreciates only that, and will not see the relationship as worthwhile if you’re not well off. And remember a Gold digger is usually associated with a female but it’s also men who scour for wealthy women too.

2. Gold diggers drop hints that they’re having trouble paying their bills (sometimes they might even ask you directly for a “loan” to tide them over).

They know that you don’t want to see them get an eviction notice, or get their car repossessed, and you’re a good person who’s in a position to help. But there’s a difference between a gold digger and someone who’s just fallen on bad times. What you should be looking for is if, despite their situation, this person is making poor financial decisions for example spending money on luxury items such as new clothes or expensive restaurants.

3. When they discuss their financial woes, suggest ways in which the suspected gold digger can make money fast.

When you mention the possibility of them selling their luxury car, video console, guitar, diamond bracelet, or any other expensive item that could keep them from becoming homeless or having their utilities cut off or car repossessed, how do they respond? The average person will be saddened and may even become angry or upset, but a gold digger will be appalled at the very idea that they should have to give up their prized possessions in order to meet their own basic needs. They’ll treat the idea as ludicrous.

4. Look for a sense of entitlement.

Gold diggers feel that they deserve to be treated well, and that includes knowing that someone is willing to spend money on them. Have you noticed unreasonable expectations of especially favourable treatment? This sense of entitlement is one of the symptoms of narcissistic behaviour, which has other symptoms that a potential gold digger might harbour:

  • grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
  • preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
  • believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
  • requires excessive admiration
  • lacks empathy, is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
  • often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her

5. Ask them meaningful questions.

  • What is the best gift they’ve ever gotten? Gold diggers will almost always cite an expensive, material object, not a uniquely personal and thoughtful gift.
  • What’s the biggest thing you ever had to give up to get something you really wanted? What you’re searching for here is evidence of delayed gratification – the ability to give up something now so that you can achieve something greater, later. Gold diggers are notoriously spoiled or sheltered, and have never had to really wait, work, or struggle for what they want because somehow, someone was always there to help.

6. See what questions they ask you.

Certain questions which might seem harmless might really be an attempt to judge your ability to provide. None of these questions, alone, should get you worried but all of them on the first date should definitely send up a red flag:

  • How much do you make a year? Why would she/he ask this question? Because a gold digger is a mobile calculator, therefore every question that relates to money is calculated to determine the percentage of the total amount that she/he believes she/he “deserves”.
  • Are you a homeowner? And what type of car do you drive? They are trying to determine your overall worth and whether being with you is a profitable investment for them.
  • How many kids do you have? Your answer to the question will help her/him determine (calculate) much of your income and attention goes to your children and how much time you can devote to her/him. A gold digger is a needy individual that will take up a lot of your money, time and energy.

7. Search for signs of generosity and gratitude towards you.

After having gone on several dates, has this person ever offered to pay? When you do pay, does he or she say thank you? Do they ever offer to help you in other ways? (And no, physical intimacy doesn’t count); do they cook you dinner when you’ve been out working late? Fix your computer? Run an errand for you when your schedule’s especially tight? If these character traits are missing, is this really someone you want to get involved with? A person doesn’t develop gratitude and generosity overnight…

8. Indulge in a pipe dream.

A pipe dream is basically a long shot. Take one of your childhood fantasies and run with it. Tell the person you’re dating that you’re thinking about becoming the mechanic, farmer, supermodel, writer, [insert dream career here] you’ve always wanted to be. Explain how if you were to ever do this, it would require a significant lifestyle change; you’d have to go back to school, relocate, or whatever would make it clear that your standard of living will go down dramatically. How does this person respond? Do they seem concerned? That’s normal. A good person will encourage you to follow your dreams while simultaneously helping you think of ways to do it practically and responsibly. A gold digger will look horrified or disgusted and say things like “You’re not really serious, are you?” OR they are ready to call it quits and leave because you are paying attention to “you” instead of “them”.

9. Watch yourself.

It feels good to help people, whether you just helped someone avoid becoming homeless, or you’re helping an aspiring artist or entrepreneur launch his or her career, but you have to be careful that you don’t fall into a pattern where your help become the norm, so much so that without your financial assistance, the relationship would crumble. If you’re the kind of person who has trouble saying “no”, or who is intensely sympathetic and compassionate, you’re more likely to bump into a gold digger.

10. Listen to the types of questions you are asked.

Even seemingly innocuous questions like “What do you do?” and “Where do you live?” can be loaded questions, asked in an attempt to ascertain your net worth and lifestyle. In any case, do not answer these questions directly – but start out by explaining your life story. What things happened to you as a child/teenager that shaped the life you live today? A person truly interested in who you are will listen intently and ask questions of a more personal nature – whereas a gold digger will not have the patience to get to know you first; they will only want to find out your current financial position before investing any time in you.

Feb 15

How to use online dating effectively.

By Kerry4 Comments

Many people are turning to online dating sites these days to try and find love. They continue to gain in popularity and more and more people are joining these sites everyday. Thousands of folks have found true love by utilizing these dating sites.

Every person who signs up with a dating site or service has unique needs and expectations about what they are looking for in a relationship. Some people are searching for true love while others may just be looking for a short term dating experience. Still others may just want some companionship after dealing with a recent loss or break up. Each person has a unique background and history that needs to be taken into account.

This is why when joining you need to not only be looking for someone who is compatible but also wants the same things you do in a relationship. By doing this you will save yourself much time as well as aggravation if you are looking for different things.

When you sign up and create your profile, clearly define what you are looking for and what you expect from your partner. This does not matter if you are male or female as it is just as important either way. Other people will also appreciate your honesty and being upfront with what you are looking for. This can lead to many more potential partners contacting you.

Also, make sure that you only contact people who really interest you as you do not want to waste your time or somebody Else’s. Online dating sites can be a very pleasant experience if you go into it knowing exactly what you want and what you want to get out of it. Online dating is thriving and will continue to gain in popularity so now is a good time to get involved.

Feb 09

Online Dating Etiquette.

By Kerry1 Comment

Today, dating online is a new and exciting discovery that is filled with endless possibilities. Online Dating refers to being introduced to potential dates online, getting to know other people through chat, email and other services and potentially taking a relationship, formed online, into the real world. Typically the goal of online dating is developing a more intimate relationship.

Whilst cyber dating, you are able to dress however you want and have your hair any way you want, but you still have to have some online dating etiquette.  This means others you communicate with will feel a part of you and everything you say will be looked at very critically.

As the number of online users steadily increases, so has the need to set standards for behavior, manners and proper etiquette.

General Guidelines of Online Dating Etiquette

1. Being rude is never justified. It is important to have nice manners and remember what you think is funny others may deem insulting.

2. Profanity should never be used online.

3. This is not set up as a game remember these are real people who have real feelings.

4. Only cyber-search if you are seriously looking for a partner or friend and state your intentions clearly. This cannot be done for kicks or fun.

5. Be a good listener. Almost everyone likes to talk about themselves and this can often lead to great communication.

6. Do not make statements or ask questions that puts someone on the defensive. This includes subjects like religion and politics. These can be discussed in person when you get to know someone better.

7. Capitals and abbreviations should not be used while in a conversation. Capitals indicate yelling and abbreviations can many times be hard to understand and can be annoying. Presentation is key when trying to attract or impress someone else.
8. Do not seem desperate or too eager and do not push anyone into doing something they do not want to do.

9. Determine what your goals are! Are you online dating for entertainment, to hang out, or look for a one night stand or a long term relationship? To determine this you need to determine what your goals are and work towards them.

10. Talk to your friends first. Online dating is used by many different types of people. Ask people you trust which sites worked for them and which ones they liked. It is better to trust someone’s opinion than to just randomly pick a site.

11. To have the best experience, you have to be honest. You cannot control what others say or do, but you can control and be accountable for yourself. Honesty is much more attractive.

12. Move at a slow pace. The success of online dating and attracting a lasting relationship is going slow.

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