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For February, 2010

Feb 10

See who’s viewed your profile on MatchMeUp

By adminNo Comments

A brand new feature just launched on MatchMeUp , which allows members to see for themselves exactly who has been viewing their profile.

The ‘Who’s Looked At Me’ feature will undoubtedly keep you in the know as to who is interested in you, and will hopefully ease the initial introductions. Making it even quicker to get to know other people and enjoy your time on MatchMeUp.

We hope that all our members make full use of this new feature, and we’re pleased to be able to continually improve the service that we offer to all our customers. As usual, we will keep you informed of the many other exciting new future developments we’ve got planned for your favourite dating site.

MatchMeUp x

Feb 09

How dating has changed in the last 30 years.

By adminNo Comments

As time and technology have progressed the ways of finding romance have changed. The Internet and World Wide Web have spawned growth and popularity in the world of online dating. It has become acceptable and even commonplace for one to say that they found their partner on a dating site. Let’s take a brief history course on the evolution of dating from the bar scene to the present day and age where it’s easier to find the love of your life in a virtual world than it is in the real world.

In the 1980’s and early 90’s the bar scene was the way to find love or lust. Dark smoky rooms echoing with thumping pop songs or techno were filled with sweaty, gyrating bodies smelling of Kouros all searching for spots on the dance floor. Your best game as a man was to have a great line and a prayer that you didn’t get slapped in the face. For the ladies, it was a lot easier due to the sheer ratio of men to women. Of course, if you could avoid the overly macho idiots, you were ten steps ahead of your competition.

If you were lucky enough to find a partner to dance with, you were blessed with the privilege of yelling over the music and the crowd in order to exchange names. When all was said and done, you knew nothing about your dance partner and there was a distinct possibility that he or she wouldn’t even give you their number. The meat market was open, but not everyone was buying.

In the mid-90’s we were given the World Wide Web. This virtual environment quickly spawned Web sites with chat rooms where written records of wanton lust were archived on servers that sat between lovers who were often on opposite sides of the globe. From the beginning, the Web has had a reputation for augmenting the idea that sex and love are two of the most important things in life. The better you were at creating lust-filled prose, the more response you would get. Unfortunately, many of these sites had no privacy. Eventually, if you spent enough time learning about a person, you might get the opportunity to meet them. This type of behaviour also raised the distinct possibility that you were on your way to meet a psycho, sex-crazed, serial killer.

As time went on, a more progressive form of online dating evolved around the world. Dating services that provided an online and secure environment began to pop-up. Most of the sites catered to single women and men though, and provided a more standard form of dating. If you were a married wife looking for a bit of love, good luck, the site would weed you out in a heartbeat, unless you lied on your profile. Even if you were accepted into the site, there was no guarantee that you would find what you were looking for. Most sites did not cater to gay men or women, nor did they promote casual meet ups for no-strings-attached sex. If dating sites were a sexual position in the late 90’s they would have been the “missionary position”.

The new millennium brought about a refreshed and invigorated view of relationships around the globe. Inhibitions began to fall away and dating Web sites began to cater to as many different orientations as possible. Obviously, taboos such as paedophilia and bestiality are still, thankfully, taboo and in most cases illegal. However, a new view of dating from many different standpoints has taken root. Web sites now cater to both straight and gay people and one that is growing fast is Dating Granny. They also provide services for those who are looking to fulfil fantasies that they might not be able to fulfil within their own marriage. Couples seeking singles or singles seeking couples have become commonplace and casual sex with an “f-buddy” have become a main draw for many of these sites.

The technology behind these sites has also become more sophisticated. Profiles are matched based not only on gender, but likes and dislikes, sexual orientation, casual encounters, fantasy and many other bits of data such as proximity. Safety has also become a major issue as well and age verification has become an important precaution with these sites.

Online dating is no longer a game of anonymity that hides behind a phosphorous screen in the middle of the night in mum or dad’s basement. The sites are legitimate and when used with common sense, safe. They work and have provided many people with an excellent outlet for their sexual needs.

Feb 09

Online Dating Etiquette.

By Kerry1 Comment

Today, dating online is a new and exciting discovery that is filled with endless possibilities. Online Dating refers to being introduced to potential dates online, getting to know other people through chat, email and other services and potentially taking a relationship, formed online, into the real world. Typically the goal of online dating is developing a more intimate relationship.

Whilst cyber dating, you are able to dress however you want and have your hair any way you want, but you still have to have some online dating etiquette.  This means others you communicate with will feel a part of you and everything you say will be looked at very critically.

As the number of online users steadily increases, so has the need to set standards for behavior, manners and proper etiquette.

General Guidelines of Online Dating Etiquette

1. Being rude is never justified. It is important to have nice manners and remember what you think is funny others may deem insulting.

2. Profanity should never be used online.

3. This is not set up as a game remember these are real people who have real feelings.

4. Only cyber-search if you are seriously looking for a partner or friend and state your intentions clearly. This cannot be done for kicks or fun.

5. Be a good listener. Almost everyone likes to talk about themselves and this can often lead to great communication.

6. Do not make statements or ask questions that puts someone on the defensive. This includes subjects like religion and politics. These can be discussed in person when you get to know someone better.

7. Capitals and abbreviations should not be used while in a conversation. Capitals indicate yelling and abbreviations can many times be hard to understand and can be annoying. Presentation is key when trying to attract or impress someone else.
8. Do not seem desperate or too eager and do not push anyone into doing something they do not want to do.

9. Determine what your goals are! Are you online dating for entertainment, to hang out, or look for a one night stand or a long term relationship? To determine this you need to determine what your goals are and work towards them.

10. Talk to your friends first. Online dating is used by many different types of people. Ask people you trust which sites worked for them and which ones they liked. It is better to trust someone’s opinion than to just randomly pick a site.

11. To have the best experience, you have to be honest. You cannot control what others say or do, but you can control and be accountable for yourself. Honesty is much more attractive.

12. Move at a slow pace. The success of online dating and attracting a lasting relationship is going slow.

Feb 09

First Date Advice.

By KerryNo Comments

Online dating may be popular way to find someone special, but you still need to apply some safety precautions when you arrange to meet for your first date.

Precautions
Always agree to meet somewhere public, and at a time of day when there are a good number of people around. Always tell a close friend or family member when and where you are meeting. Take a cell phone, and make sure you know the route home. Don’t get stranded. Don’t miss the last train.

Location
So you’ve clicked with someone online, and have now decided to meet. But where? The choice will always be a personal one, but you should at least ensure you meet somewhere public and as mentioned above, always meet somewhere busy. Of course, you’ll want to actually hear each other, so avoid noisy nightclubs that don’t have a quiet area! A good restaurant is a great choice! But be sure not to try something too unusual – unless of course you know you’re both into the unusual!

What to wear
First impressions always count. Choose something both smart and comfortable.

What to say
Avoid talking entirely about yourself and do show an interest in your potential partner; for example, compliment their outfit, hair, jewelry. Compliments like these are a gentle way of saying you’re attracted to that person. Avoid controversial subjects to start, at least until you get to know each other. It’s true to say most of us like to talk about ourselves, but remember to be a good listener!
Open the conversation with something light: Almost everybody likes movies, music and good food!

Feb 08

The Top Ten Do’s and Don’ts for Men on Valentine’s Day

By admin5 Comments

The Valentine’s Day Don’ts

1. Don’t forget. I think that the worst thing I could do about Valentine’s Day is forgetting all about it. Put it on your calendar in big red letters. And a few days before, make sure you put a reminder in your day planner or your PDA.

2. Don’t buy kitchen appliances. Or anything else practical. Valentine’s Day is supposed to be a little extravagant. A new blender is not—I repeat, is not—romantic. Whatever gift you choose should be nice and out of the ordinary.

3. Don’t do the same thing you did last year. Even if it worked well, your partner will appreciate something new and different. She wants to know that you thought about her as you planned your Valentine’s Day gift or event.

4. Don’t give her lingerie. Now, I know the people at LaSenza will not like this, but lingerie is a very dangerous gift. You can get the wrong size, which is a big problem. You can get the wrong color. But most importantly, when guys give lingerie they often have one thought in mind, and giving lingerie can really backfire. Just resist the temptation and be a little more creative.

5. Don’t have unrealistic expectations. While your partner wants to be pampered, you also have to understand that her day is filled with many demands—kids, work, house, and more. Make sure you go the extra mile, but keep your expectations realistic and in check.

6. Don’t overspend. Particularly if you share a bank account and a credit card with your sweetheart, breaking the bank is a bad idea. Keep within your budget and have the nicest evening you can afford. If it is too much, she’ll likely be panicked about money and too stressed to have fun.

7. Don’t talk about an ex. One of the surest ways to spoil a Valentine’s Day evening is to have your partner think you are thinking about another woman. Don’t talk about your former wife or girlfriend; keep the conversation focused on your woman and life will be better.

8. Don’t give her a generic card. She will not be impressed with the nicest card from the local supermarket if you just sign your name. Add a note about how much you love her, how much she means to you, and any other positive feelings you have. The personal part is what is romantic to her, not how much lace is on the card or how much you spent on it.

9. Don’t do guy stuff. Your favorite team may be playing at home, or you may be tempted to take her to a sports bar for dinner. Just don’t. This is her night, so stay away from the guy stuff, and put her first. You can always record the match and watch it tomorrow.

10. Don’t spend the night online. Too many of us tend to get in front of the computer late at night for gaming, chatting or other online stuff. For this one night, leave the computer off and focus on your woman. She will be grateful for your undivided attention.

What To Do On Valentine’s Day

1. Send a gift to work. If your partner is employed, delivering or sending a Valentine’s Day gift to work is a welcome idea. It will show her in front of her peers that she is loved and remembered on Valentine’s Day.

2. Make a homemade Valentine. Cards from the store are nice, but your partner will really know you love her if you take the time to make your own Valentine card. Get out the scissors, red construction paper, white paper doilies and glue and get started. Your own little verse would add just the right touch. Taking time to do something out of the ordinary is romantic.

3. Cook for her. Once again, doing something out of the routine is an important way to show you care. Breakfast in bed, or cooking a romantic dinner for two can be fun for you and let her know you were willing to go the extra mile.

4. Remember romance. Valentine’s Day for your partner is all about romance. That means taking the time to do the little extras like dressing up for your dinner out, leaving little love notes around, or being on time for your commitments. While guys aren’t often good at romance, it is important to her. Try to see yourself as she sees you and then deliver beyond her expectation.

5. Turn off the electronics. While we live in a fast paced time with cell phones or personal digital assistants running our lives, Valentine’s Day is not a time for interruptions. Turn off the phone, the Palm or Blackberry, and focus your attention on your significant other.

6. Write her a love letter. This is not an email, a text message or a card, but a real love letter. In your own handwriting, tell her what she really means to you. Tell her why you would choose her all over again if you had to. Remind her why you are thrilled that she is your kids’ mum. She’ll keep that letter as a cherished part of her life.

7. Watch a chick flick. Sure, you’d rather be watching the latest gangster film or the Match, but she’ll appreciate you sitting through a romantic movie. Consider The Lake House, While You Were Sleeping, You’ve Got Mail or Sleepless in Seattle if you are looking for one that you both might enjoy.

8. Offer her a massage. Many Valentine’s Day experts recommend a day spa gift certificate as a great gift option for your sweetheart, but I think a personal massage is a wonderful alternative. Giving your woman a good foot massage or a solid back rub can really make her relax and feel good. Learn some massage techniques, pick up some massage oil and work out those stiff muscles.

9. Consider spreading gifts throughout the day. Rather than one big gift, you should try giving her a number of smaller gifts during the day. Maybe one gift at breakfast, leave one on the front seat of her car or in her medicine chest in the bathroom, one at work, and then another one on the front seat of her car before she leaves work. Going the extra mile to remember her during the day will pay big dividends in how she reacts the rest of the day.

10. Just relax. While I know these ideas sound like a lot of work, it is important to not overdo it. Don’t try to cram too much into the day or into the evening. A leisurely pace is an important component of making Valentine’s Day great for your woman.

Good Luck

Matchmeup x

Feb 08

What NOT to say on your first date.

By admin1 Comment

Not had great dates in the past? Ever said something on a date that you wished you hadn’t? Well watch this video of some things you should never say on a first date. Click on the photo

Feb 08

Don’t scare the women away with your emails.

By adminNo Comments

A small number of guys on Matchmeup have not got a clue when it comes to sending emails to our lovely Female members. Here at Matchmeup We want you to find your Match, not scare them off, So we have listed the messages you DON’T send.

1 – Get the Picture right - Believe it or not most women are not interested in how big your Manhood is and even less interested when they don’t even know who owns it.

2 – Never ask her to have Sex with You! Asking for sex on the Second Email Exchange is completely offensive and rude. Women like to  talk and understand more about people. If you want a short flame, you can always refer to adult websites that fulfill the goal.

3 - Don’t expect that phone call – Do not think for one minute that using the line ‘Hi sweetheart my number is 07849 577### give me a call I’m free this weekend’ means she is going to rush to the phone and call you. Most of the guys that send this do not even bother to place an image in their profile. So think about it would you phone a random number out of the phone book and offer to take them out?

4 – Never ask her for a naked picture – Doing so, definitely is an insult. It won’t help you to earn her faith. You can request for her image in exchange of yours but do not ask for the nude image.

5 – Never Send Nasty Emails – If for example she hasn’t replied to your messages, just move on. Don’t send a nasty email enquiring why the hell she has not replied Besides it’s her decision to contact you or not.

If your not into sending messages then Please,Please,Please place a photo on your profile because if you do not then you will never receive a message.

Good luck

Matchmeup x

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